mmk123
03-02 06:46 PM
I agree as well as disagree with Chandu.
India is where it is and US is where it is. Don't say you don't want to go because India is like this or want to get GC because US is like this. It's more like what you like or dislike (from India or US); hence you want to stay or go back. People prefer to stay place A as they cannot accommodate in place B and not because country cannot accommodate to what they like. I think that's more of a matter of personal choice.
Having said this, I agree to the fact that India has best things to offer "if once can afford" and "change should come to grassroots".
Moving back to the original question - do I feel like giving up? Yes, I do but I give up that feeling of giving up when I occasionally read what guild, plumberusa cartoons blabber and how much they hate us :)
India is where it is and US is where it is. Don't say you don't want to go because India is like this or want to get GC because US is like this. It's more like what you like or dislike (from India or US); hence you want to stay or go back. People prefer to stay place A as they cannot accommodate in place B and not because country cannot accommodate to what they like. I think that's more of a matter of personal choice.
Having said this, I agree to the fact that India has best things to offer "if once can afford" and "change should come to grassroots".
Moving back to the original question - do I feel like giving up? Yes, I do but I give up that feeling of giving up when I occasionally read what guild, plumberusa cartoons blabber and how much they hate us :)
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yabadaba
08-02 09:28 PM
Immigration - Are we there yet?
All of us have been stuck at the DMV for hours together, trying to renew our licenses, trying to change our address or for getting married and updating our last name. Now imagine being stuck there for years together, waiting and hoping the line moves forward. This is what constitutes "being in line" for an immigration petition today. The end result is the same. You get a plastic card of limited validity, you are fingerprinted and you have your picture displayed. Only this is what is called a "green card."
For all the restrictionists out there who think immigrants are taking their jobs, stealing their women and running off with their TVs, we are just like you. Today, I own a home, am part of my homeowners association, participate in the summer block party and try to ensure that my job is not off-shored. We don’t have horns on our heads that makes us stand out from the rest of you. I don’t get paid less nor has a single American lost his job since I was hired. In fact we have grown from a department of 5 people to almost 20,with me being the only immigrant. There are thousands of people like me who have played by the rules, have come here legally and now are being subjected to the quagmire of antiquated immigration policies that make us rethink the American dream. Do you, my neighbor, want us here?
Today I received a letter from my congressman in response to a webfax asking him to support legislation for granting relief to people affected by retrogression. Retrogression for the uninitiated is the freeze on immigrant visa numbers because of an outdated immigration system. Mind you, for all the people who jump up and say "no to h1-b," this is nothing to do with a worker visa. I have already been certified by the Department of Labor and the United States Citizenship and Immigration Service, as an "alien with advanced degree or exceptional ability." This webfax only asked for his support for legislation that would allow the immigration policies to be updated to today's requirements.
However, my Congressman does not understand that nuance. The letter I received from him talked about my support for H1B/L1 worker visas, which I had not mentioned in my webfax. If our lawmakers do not understand the difference, how do we make our American neighbors understand this complex issue.
Immigration is a complex issue. It cannot be dealt with Lou Dobbs blaming the immigrants for all the middle class woes; it cannot be dealt with congressmen screaming no amnesty. It is a complex issue of thousands of laws, forms, advertisements and petitions. If it were not a complex issue then there would be no such thing as an immigration lawyer. Countries like Canada and Australia do not require immigration lawyers and the process is straightforward. So then naturally the question comes back of why am I still here. The reason for that is I still believe in the spirit of America. I believe in the American dream. I believe that things will work out. I believe that sanity will prevail. I believe that although I missed the boat half a century ago, I am here now and I am welcome.
Yabadaba
IV member.
All of us have been stuck at the DMV for hours together, trying to renew our licenses, trying to change our address or for getting married and updating our last name. Now imagine being stuck there for years together, waiting and hoping the line moves forward. This is what constitutes "being in line" for an immigration petition today. The end result is the same. You get a plastic card of limited validity, you are fingerprinted and you have your picture displayed. Only this is what is called a "green card."
For all the restrictionists out there who think immigrants are taking their jobs, stealing their women and running off with their TVs, we are just like you. Today, I own a home, am part of my homeowners association, participate in the summer block party and try to ensure that my job is not off-shored. We don’t have horns on our heads that makes us stand out from the rest of you. I don’t get paid less nor has a single American lost his job since I was hired. In fact we have grown from a department of 5 people to almost 20,with me being the only immigrant. There are thousands of people like me who have played by the rules, have come here legally and now are being subjected to the quagmire of antiquated immigration policies that make us rethink the American dream. Do you, my neighbor, want us here?
Today I received a letter from my congressman in response to a webfax asking him to support legislation for granting relief to people affected by retrogression. Retrogression for the uninitiated is the freeze on immigrant visa numbers because of an outdated immigration system. Mind you, for all the people who jump up and say "no to h1-b," this is nothing to do with a worker visa. I have already been certified by the Department of Labor and the United States Citizenship and Immigration Service, as an "alien with advanced degree or exceptional ability." This webfax only asked for his support for legislation that would allow the immigration policies to be updated to today's requirements.
However, my Congressman does not understand that nuance. The letter I received from him talked about my support for H1B/L1 worker visas, which I had not mentioned in my webfax. If our lawmakers do not understand the difference, how do we make our American neighbors understand this complex issue.
Immigration is a complex issue. It cannot be dealt with Lou Dobbs blaming the immigrants for all the middle class woes; it cannot be dealt with congressmen screaming no amnesty. It is a complex issue of thousands of laws, forms, advertisements and petitions. If it were not a complex issue then there would be no such thing as an immigration lawyer. Countries like Canada and Australia do not require immigration lawyers and the process is straightforward. So then naturally the question comes back of why am I still here. The reason for that is I still believe in the spirit of America. I believe in the American dream. I believe that things will work out. I believe that sanity will prevail. I believe that although I missed the boat half a century ago, I am here now and I am welcome.
Yabadaba
IV member.
amits
07-20 07:01 AM
We're lucky that IV leadership is so devoted to 'our' cause. There would be very few individuals in this world, who can even think of selling their house for benefit of a group. Hats off to Aman!!! You're a hero, sir!!!
Now here is our leader selling his personal house for a collective good, and here we are.... a group of 21000 and not more than 2000 (optimistic figure) are contributors... A big shame!!
Those who got benefited by selfless efforts of Aman, and core team, but still did not contribute ... do you have any explanation for 'yourself'?
It's not about $10, 20, 50, 100 .... A person is ready to sell his house for your cause and you can't even make a small contribution in your own cause.
Those who are not contributing, and some who still have doubts, just read numerous media reports of praise of IV and how IV was instrumental in the outcome of July 2nd visa mess. And then..
Just stand up in front of a mirror and ask yourself - is your inaction justified? Is it your pocket that does not allow you to contribute or it's just moral poverty that doesn't let you do it? Is it justified to just 'wait and watch' how others fight for you, and when it comes to reaping the fruits.. you'll run to be first in line.
Is it not the time that you come out, listen to your antar-atma (inner soul) and contribute something for your own fight....?
_______________________________________________
Contributed $550, includes $50 recurring from july 2007.
Pledged $100 for reimbursing money to Aman and Core Team.
Now here is our leader selling his personal house for a collective good, and here we are.... a group of 21000 and not more than 2000 (optimistic figure) are contributors... A big shame!!
Those who got benefited by selfless efforts of Aman, and core team, but still did not contribute ... do you have any explanation for 'yourself'?
It's not about $10, 20, 50, 100 .... A person is ready to sell his house for your cause and you can't even make a small contribution in your own cause.
Those who are not contributing, and some who still have doubts, just read numerous media reports of praise of IV and how IV was instrumental in the outcome of July 2nd visa mess. And then..
Just stand up in front of a mirror and ask yourself - is your inaction justified? Is it your pocket that does not allow you to contribute or it's just moral poverty that doesn't let you do it? Is it justified to just 'wait and watch' how others fight for you, and when it comes to reaping the fruits.. you'll run to be first in line.
Is it not the time that you come out, listen to your antar-atma (inner soul) and contribute something for your own fight....?
_______________________________________________
Contributed $550, includes $50 recurring from july 2007.
Pledged $100 for reimbursing money to Aman and Core Team.
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santb1975
05-29 11:33 PM
Have not reached 20K yet
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vkannan
03-07 01:23 AM
Agree. I still blame name check 180 rule - a major decision by USCIS/FBI helped this backlogg to go from bad to worst.
Name check 180 rule -it allowed thousands of people from EB1 / EB2 Row to get their 485 cleared and consumed major chunk of 2008/09 EB visas. Had it been not there, many old timers, would have used visas as their Name check would have been cleared before them.
Oh yeah, I hear you; I personally know many of my ex-colleagues in a big IT sourcing company who came to US in L1A got their GC through EB1 category within a matter of 6-8 months.....last years 180 rule change does benefit most of these fortunate guys.....
Name check 180 rule -it allowed thousands of people from EB1 / EB2 Row to get their 485 cleared and consumed major chunk of 2008/09 EB visas. Had it been not there, many old timers, would have used visas as their Name check would have been cleared before them.
Oh yeah, I hear you; I personally know many of my ex-colleagues in a big IT sourcing company who came to US in L1A got their GC through EB1 category within a matter of 6-8 months.....last years 180 rule change does benefit most of these fortunate guys.....
immm
07-18 06:00 PM
I have not received the physical receipt notice yet. But the online case status says "On July 11, 2007, we received this I485 APPLICATION" even though it was physically delivered and signed at Nebraska Service center on June, 15th. I will post once I get the physical copy of receipt notice to update every one.
May be some others that have already received the physical copy of receipt notices can clarify the difference between the receipt date on the notice vs. the online status that says ""On July 11, 2007, we received..."
UPDATE: shreekhand's post above from moments ago seems to have answered this question.
What does it say on your I485 receipt notice?
For example.. my app was mailed on 5/31 and RD on receipt notice is 6/4 and Notice date is 6/6 and Online case status says received on 6/5. I assume 6/5 is when USCIS created an entry for my case and 6/6 (my checks were also cashed on 6/6) is when receipt notice is actually generated. Some one correct me if I am wrong.
My application was sent on June, 14th and delivered on June 15th (I have the FedEx tracking info and signature page confirming 6/15).
The case status online based on receipt number (obtained by calling them a few times until I got lucky) says:
"On July 11, 2007, we received this I485 APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS, and mailed you a notice describing how we will process your case."
Not sure if the online status is referring to the receipt date or the notice date when it says "On July 11, 2007, we received" when, in fact, they received it on June 15th!!
May be some others that have already received the physical copy of receipt notices can clarify the difference between the receipt date on the notice vs. the online status that says ""On July 11, 2007, we received..."
UPDATE: shreekhand's post above from moments ago seems to have answered this question.
What does it say on your I485 receipt notice?
For example.. my app was mailed on 5/31 and RD on receipt notice is 6/4 and Notice date is 6/6 and Online case status says received on 6/5. I assume 6/5 is when USCIS created an entry for my case and 6/6 (my checks were also cashed on 6/6) is when receipt notice is actually generated. Some one correct me if I am wrong.
My application was sent on June, 14th and delivered on June 15th (I have the FedEx tracking info and signature page confirming 6/15).
The case status online based on receipt number (obtained by calling them a few times until I got lucky) says:
"On July 11, 2007, we received this I485 APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS, and mailed you a notice describing how we will process your case."
Not sure if the online status is referring to the receipt date or the notice date when it says "On July 11, 2007, we received" when, in fact, they received it on June 15th!!
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csreddy329
12-11 04:08 PM
After I-140 approval if we are allowed to file 485 that will give us big relief, Willing to contribute big time if IV can make this part of its agenda
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arihant
03-13 12:26 PM
Here is a link to the following article:
http://www.govexec.com/story_page.cfm?articleid=33580&dcn=todaysnews
Looks like they have not come to the immigration issues yet.
Senate panel votes to double size of border force
By Michael Posner, CongressDaily
The Senate Judiciary Committee voted Thursday to add more border agents, investigators and fencing to stem rising illegal immigration as it worked its way through a major immigration reform bill.
In its third day of marking up the bill, the committee discussed nearly 30 amendments, approving a dozen of them by voice vote and postponing the rest for action next week.
In action during the day, the committee agreed to authorize over five years more than 10,000 new customs and border patrol agents, 1,000 investigators, and 1,250 port of entry inspectors. There was a dispute between Sen. Dianne Feinstein, D-Calif., principal author of the amendment to boost the number of border agents, and Sen. Jeff Sessions, R-Ala., over exactly how many border patrol agents would be added in addition to the 11,300 border agents now. Committee staff said they would have to resolve the exact numbers later.
In addition, the committee adopted also by voice an amendment by Sen. John Kyl, R-Ariz., to replace some existing fencing in Arizona and add more than 200 miles of barriers to improve border security in Arizona only. Sessions has said he planned to offer an amendment on the Senate floor to put up some 700 miles of fencing to block off some of the 2,000 miles of U.S. border with Mexico. The committee also agreed to an amendment by Sen. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass., for a study to study the feasibility of more fencing along the entire border.
The committee made more progress than it did Wednesday when only three relatively minor amendments were adopted after spending all day with many senators absent, preventing a voting quorum.
"We're on our way," said Committee Chairman Arlen Specter, R-Pa., Thursday. "We had a good session." Specter is trying to meet a target set by Senate Majority Leader Bill Frist, R-Tenn., to start debate on an immigration bill on March 27. Specter indicated yesterday it might not meet that goal because of the slow pace of deciding on amendments.
The committee is working its way through a 306-page draft proposed by Specter to beef up enforcement and deal with the estimated 11 million illegal aliens living in the United States by allowing qualified undocumented workers to continue working as a way to earn eventual citizenship. He also has proposed a separate guest worker program allowing foreigners to enter the country for up to six years to take jobs that cannot be filled.
Both provisions are highly controversial and are considered the heart of the bill but debate on those matters will not take place until next week at the earliest. The committee plans to work next Wednesday and Thursday on immigration.
The House passed a bill last year that deals mainly with enforcement and does not address the thorny guest worker issue.
In other amendments, the committee agreed to a Feinstein amendment to allow immigrants to stay in the United States if it was discovered their papers or passports were falsified. The immigrants would have to prove there was "a credible fear of prosecution" as the reason passports were forged to get out of countries with dictatorships.
A Sessions' plan was approved that would jail immigrants found to be illegal instead of releasing them pending immigration hearings. He argued many of those released never show up for immigration hearings and disappear. Sessions also won committee endorsement to make it a crime to run a vehicle past a customs checkpoint without stopping.
Three amendments by Sen. Charles Grassley, R-Iowa, met no opposition. One would require the Department of Homeland Security to make public foreign ownership of management operations that involve national security as a way to prevent officials being surprised by situations like the Dubai port management controversy.
A Grassley proposal to allocate more immigration investigators to inland states like Iowa won easy approval. So did one to make immigrants convicted of drunk driving one of the crimes subject to deportation.
An amendment by Sen. Sam Brownback, R-Kan., extending a law allowing foreign doctors to practice in mainly rural areas with physician shortages, also gained approval.
And an amendment by Sen. Tom Coburn, R-Okla., for expedited deportation instead of incarcerating convicted illegal immigrants was also accepted. Sen. John Cornyn, R-Tex., won approval of his proposal to bar violent criminals from sponsoring foreigners seeking entry into the United States.
http://www.govexec.com/story_page.cfm?articleid=33580&dcn=todaysnews
Looks like they have not come to the immigration issues yet.
Senate panel votes to double size of border force
By Michael Posner, CongressDaily
The Senate Judiciary Committee voted Thursday to add more border agents, investigators and fencing to stem rising illegal immigration as it worked its way through a major immigration reform bill.
In its third day of marking up the bill, the committee discussed nearly 30 amendments, approving a dozen of them by voice vote and postponing the rest for action next week.
In action during the day, the committee agreed to authorize over five years more than 10,000 new customs and border patrol agents, 1,000 investigators, and 1,250 port of entry inspectors. There was a dispute between Sen. Dianne Feinstein, D-Calif., principal author of the amendment to boost the number of border agents, and Sen. Jeff Sessions, R-Ala., over exactly how many border patrol agents would be added in addition to the 11,300 border agents now. Committee staff said they would have to resolve the exact numbers later.
In addition, the committee adopted also by voice an amendment by Sen. John Kyl, R-Ariz., to replace some existing fencing in Arizona and add more than 200 miles of barriers to improve border security in Arizona only. Sessions has said he planned to offer an amendment on the Senate floor to put up some 700 miles of fencing to block off some of the 2,000 miles of U.S. border with Mexico. The committee also agreed to an amendment by Sen. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass., for a study to study the feasibility of more fencing along the entire border.
The committee made more progress than it did Wednesday when only three relatively minor amendments were adopted after spending all day with many senators absent, preventing a voting quorum.
"We're on our way," said Committee Chairman Arlen Specter, R-Pa., Thursday. "We had a good session." Specter is trying to meet a target set by Senate Majority Leader Bill Frist, R-Tenn., to start debate on an immigration bill on March 27. Specter indicated yesterday it might not meet that goal because of the slow pace of deciding on amendments.
The committee is working its way through a 306-page draft proposed by Specter to beef up enforcement and deal with the estimated 11 million illegal aliens living in the United States by allowing qualified undocumented workers to continue working as a way to earn eventual citizenship. He also has proposed a separate guest worker program allowing foreigners to enter the country for up to six years to take jobs that cannot be filled.
Both provisions are highly controversial and are considered the heart of the bill but debate on those matters will not take place until next week at the earliest. The committee plans to work next Wednesday and Thursday on immigration.
The House passed a bill last year that deals mainly with enforcement and does not address the thorny guest worker issue.
In other amendments, the committee agreed to a Feinstein amendment to allow immigrants to stay in the United States if it was discovered their papers or passports were falsified. The immigrants would have to prove there was "a credible fear of prosecution" as the reason passports were forged to get out of countries with dictatorships.
A Sessions' plan was approved that would jail immigrants found to be illegal instead of releasing them pending immigration hearings. He argued many of those released never show up for immigration hearings and disappear. Sessions also won committee endorsement to make it a crime to run a vehicle past a customs checkpoint without stopping.
Three amendments by Sen. Charles Grassley, R-Iowa, met no opposition. One would require the Department of Homeland Security to make public foreign ownership of management operations that involve national security as a way to prevent officials being surprised by situations like the Dubai port management controversy.
A Grassley proposal to allocate more immigration investigators to inland states like Iowa won easy approval. So did one to make immigrants convicted of drunk driving one of the crimes subject to deportation.
An amendment by Sen. Sam Brownback, R-Kan., extending a law allowing foreign doctors to practice in mainly rural areas with physician shortages, also gained approval.
And an amendment by Sen. Tom Coburn, R-Okla., for expedited deportation instead of incarcerating convicted illegal immigrants was also accepted. Sen. John Cornyn, R-Tex., won approval of his proposal to bar violent criminals from sponsoring foreigners seeking entry into the United States.
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plassey
07-20 10:17 PM
Wake up Ms Matthew,
They are talking about EAD only.
Thank you!! That's true exagerated values. With concurrent filing you can travel in and out of the country, you can work etc. Now we are moaning that the greencard is going to take forever! Wow! Be happy with this situation (file your i-140 & i-485) and stop these pessimistic views!
They are talking about EAD only.
Thank you!! That's true exagerated values. With concurrent filing you can travel in and out of the country, you can work etc. Now we are moaning that the greencard is going to take forever! Wow! Be happy with this situation (file your i-140 & i-485) and stop these pessimistic views!
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go_guy123
02-25 01:38 PM
It is easy and potentially justifiable to feel some frustration. As it relates to the green card, I am in a similar situation to most who visit and share their views on this board.
I view the Universe and everything that is contained therein to be perfect - there can be no imperfections. I find comfort in that thought and focus my attention on the following:
feeling grateful for all that I have; doing my work to the best of my ability; taking the risks I believe I should take; being resilient; enjoying my life more; being patient; caring more; comparing less
This is merely a statement of my beliefs - this works for me. It is not intended to offend anyone nor is it a solution to anyone's woes.
Good times, health, and happiness to all.
You are relatively at peace because your PD is 2005 and you are in EB2.
Moreover since you are already filed 485 and its more than 6 months you are secure.
For rest the situation is precarious
I view the Universe and everything that is contained therein to be perfect - there can be no imperfections. I find comfort in that thought and focus my attention on the following:
feeling grateful for all that I have; doing my work to the best of my ability; taking the risks I believe I should take; being resilient; enjoying my life more; being patient; caring more; comparing less
This is merely a statement of my beliefs - this works for me. It is not intended to offend anyone nor is it a solution to anyone's woes.
Good times, health, and happiness to all.
You are relatively at peace because your PD is 2005 and you are in EB2.
Moreover since you are already filed 485 and its more than 6 months you are secure.
For rest the situation is precarious
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vin13
03-12 11:46 AM
I feel contribution campaign for a specific initiative will have a better result than a general contribution.
The home page should show all the initiatives that is being worked on. Who is leading the effort and then people can contribute for those efforts. This way everyone will have a say in what they feel is more important by contributing more to that effort.
The reason i feel this is because currently the only way i can understand the progress about any initiative is by constantly reading the forum. A lot of times people change topics and open several threads. I need to keep pace with the posts. I spend several hours a day to keep up. I may not be able to do this forever.
Legal employement based immigration has various aspects.Initiative are vast ranging from F1 visas to Advance Parole. If we break the contribution by initiatives, people can visit those areas so they can contribute their time and money more effectively.
Just my 2 cents.
The home page should show all the initiatives that is being worked on. Who is leading the effort and then people can contribute for those efforts. This way everyone will have a say in what they feel is more important by contributing more to that effort.
The reason i feel this is because currently the only way i can understand the progress about any initiative is by constantly reading the forum. A lot of times people change topics and open several threads. I need to keep pace with the posts. I spend several hours a day to keep up. I may not be able to do this forever.
Legal employement based immigration has various aspects.Initiative are vast ranging from F1 visas to Advance Parole. If we break the contribution by initiatives, people can visit those areas so they can contribute their time and money more effectively.
Just my 2 cents.
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ind_game
05-13 11:37 PM
Did you ever apply for EAD / AP?
I have EAD which expires on 07/30/2010. I have AP which expires on 10/29/2009
I have EAD which expires on 07/30/2010. I have AP which expires on 10/29/2009
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abhisec
07-15 03:59 PM
sent $10 thru bill pay. Let's keep going!
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cpbaherwani
06-03 11:29 AM
Mailed a check for $100 today.
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chi_shark
02-23 05:45 PM
In the guideline for interpreting the dates USCIS hasn't mentioned anything about PD being current. So I think they process applications regardless of PD being current or not
'The table shown below is intended to be a tool for customers to view our processing times. When applications and petitions are completed within our target timeframes, those timeframes will be shown (example: 3 months). If we are not meeting our target timeframes a date will be shown (example: April 16, 2008).'
thats true, but when does the target timeframe clock start? when they receive the app or when the priority date becomes current?
'The table shown below is intended to be a tool for customers to view our processing times. When applications and petitions are completed within our target timeframes, those timeframes will be shown (example: 3 months). If we are not meeting our target timeframes a date will be shown (example: April 16, 2008).'
thats true, but when does the target timeframe clock start? when they receive the app or when the priority date becomes current?
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vandanaverdia
09-12 09:49 PM
Looks like you will soon cross My 350 Contribution ;)
I pledge 100$ more once Milind123 crosses 400 !!:D
Any Takers !!!
thats the Least we non attending :( :(
folks can do
Great... we need your support!!!!
I pledge 100$ more once Milind123 crosses 400 !!:D
Any Takers !!!
thats the Least we non attending :( :(
folks can do
Great... we need your support!!!!
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snathan
02-07 10:25 AM
Hi,
I been a member of IV for a long time and just to keep myself anonymous for a while I created this account. I am so sorry for opening a thread in a completely irrelevant forum but I have no idea what to do. So, I request all the members to please help me by providing some kind of information.
Here is my story:
I came to US in 2002 and completed masters and been working since then. I got married couple of years ago. Whatever the monetary gifts the girls parents gave as part of the marriage, I put all that in an account on the girls name within 2 days of the marriage. We came to India and from then on the problems started. She and her parents want me to separate from my parents and support their family by sending money to their parents which I couldn't do. How can I leave my parents in their old age when they worked very hard to give a decent life. She has been harassing me mentally for this all the time. Recently her parents have been threatening me saying they will file dowry case in India if I don't send money or cut myself off from my parents. I provided for the girl in all possible ways, even encouraged her to join school to get a masters degree which she stopped soon. We had a baby recently and my parents visited us to help us with the baby. She started harassing them too by saying something or other.
I am very frustrated at this situation and I don't know what to do. I am on H1B and applied for 485 too. At times I feel like applying for divorce but when I think about my little baby I am not able to take that step. The house we currently live in, I bought long before the marriage. It came to a situation where we cannot live together. I cannot ask her to go out of the house because she doesn't have anywhere to go and with the baby even if she leaves, it will be very tough. I said I will leave the house and stay in a apartment for which she threatens to commit suicide. So, I don't know what to do. I am worried about my baby because between all this my baby's life will be spoiled and I don't want that. Can anyone please tell me what I can do in this matter?
Thank you very much for taking time to read this.
It’s very sad...I believe the problem is your in-laws and their influence on your wife. You have to make your wife understand that. Why don’t you try counseling?
Make sure you are not getting into any legal issues here as well as in India...It might cost your GC in the worst case. But I am not sure.
Also record all the conversation with your in-laws and wife when they are black mailing you. Keep all the evidence. It might save you if things go wrong.
This is what I would do I were in your position.
1. Try to convince and make her understand.
2. Try to avoid all her parent's influence on her, if needed I would cut off her from her parents.
3. Take her for counseling.
4. Prepare for the worst case and hope for the best case.
Best of luck
I been a member of IV for a long time and just to keep myself anonymous for a while I created this account. I am so sorry for opening a thread in a completely irrelevant forum but I have no idea what to do. So, I request all the members to please help me by providing some kind of information.
Here is my story:
I came to US in 2002 and completed masters and been working since then. I got married couple of years ago. Whatever the monetary gifts the girls parents gave as part of the marriage, I put all that in an account on the girls name within 2 days of the marriage. We came to India and from then on the problems started. She and her parents want me to separate from my parents and support their family by sending money to their parents which I couldn't do. How can I leave my parents in their old age when they worked very hard to give a decent life. She has been harassing me mentally for this all the time. Recently her parents have been threatening me saying they will file dowry case in India if I don't send money or cut myself off from my parents. I provided for the girl in all possible ways, even encouraged her to join school to get a masters degree which she stopped soon. We had a baby recently and my parents visited us to help us with the baby. She started harassing them too by saying something or other.
I am very frustrated at this situation and I don't know what to do. I am on H1B and applied for 485 too. At times I feel like applying for divorce but when I think about my little baby I am not able to take that step. The house we currently live in, I bought long before the marriage. It came to a situation where we cannot live together. I cannot ask her to go out of the house because she doesn't have anywhere to go and with the baby even if she leaves, it will be very tough. I said I will leave the house and stay in a apartment for which she threatens to commit suicide. So, I don't know what to do. I am worried about my baby because between all this my baby's life will be spoiled and I don't want that. Can anyone please tell me what I can do in this matter?
Thank you very much for taking time to read this.
It’s very sad...I believe the problem is your in-laws and their influence on your wife. You have to make your wife understand that. Why don’t you try counseling?
Make sure you are not getting into any legal issues here as well as in India...It might cost your GC in the worst case. But I am not sure.
Also record all the conversation with your in-laws and wife when they are black mailing you. Keep all the evidence. It might save you if things go wrong.
This is what I would do I were in your position.
1. Try to convince and make her understand.
2. Try to avoid all her parent's influence on her, if needed I would cut off her from her parents.
3. Take her for counseling.
4. Prepare for the worst case and hope for the best case.
Best of luck
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santb1975
05-22 01:31 AM
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ramus
07-06 12:20 PM
Thank you.. I am sure this thread is going to get more and more visits..
I have changed the thread title.
I have changed the thread title.
bala50
04-30 04:03 PM
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sayantan76
01-07 09:07 AM
Please read my statements properly. I have taught about 100 (the number of students in my last 5 classes were about 70, 30, 25, 25, 12). My colleagues have been observing the same issues for last 5-7 years when the number of students from India started to surge. The number 1000 is the estimate for over the 5 year period. Both numbers are conservative estimates.
and why, pray, does your esteemed school keep accepting students from these so called "sub-standard" colleges in india? i would say 5-7 years of observed emperical evidence calls for some substantial action on your and your school's part in black-listing these institutions........so, either:
1. you are blowing smoke through eveyone's a** here or
2. the school is greedy for tuition fees - proving an earlier contention made in this thread about it being all about money....
P.S - i am not from one of these schools so no personal stake!
and why, pray, does your esteemed school keep accepting students from these so called "sub-standard" colleges in india? i would say 5-7 years of observed emperical evidence calls for some substantial action on your and your school's part in black-listing these institutions........so, either:
1. you are blowing smoke through eveyone's a** here or
2. the school is greedy for tuition fees - proving an earlier contention made in this thread about it being all about money....
P.S - i am not from one of these schools so no personal stake!
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